“If you let go a little, you will have a little peace. If you let go a lot, you will have a lot of peace.” – Ajahn Chah
Throughout the course of the day we all run into countless obstacles that cause stress in our life and can ultimately impact our work performance. One of the keys to handling stress is learning how to not only let things go, but also how to use your experiences to make a positive impact on your career. I have compiled a quick guide to help you more efficiently manage problems.
Find an outlet. Learn a new skill to improve yourself and/or gain expertise in a certain area. Use meditation, yoga, or physical activities as a stress-reliever. Feeling good about yourself starts from the inside out. Not only does exercise quell stress by releasing endorphins and improving your overall health, but also gives you a break and an opportunity to step away from your computer and focus on yourself for a while.
Take your emotions into account. Emotions are subjective and biased. Your feelings can have a significant influence on your thoughts and actions. Before doing anything brash, such as sending an angry email, take a moment to process your emotions and factor them into your decision-making at work.
Change your perspective. We can sometimes be our own harshest critic — change your perspective! Stop comparing yourself to an idealized image, and take note of your accomplishments and how far you have come rather than only focusing on the negative. When conflicts arise within the office, put yourself in the other party’s shoes — review the situation from the other person’s point of view and remember that there may be factors in their life that could be affecting their decision-making.
Take responsibility. Own up to your mistakes rather than attempting to dodge the situation. You will feel better and it will reveal strength of character.
Identify what the experience taught you. Every experience, whether negative or positive, will teach you something. While some lessons are harder than others, everything has a positive take away if you look hard enough. Be open to criticism and use it as a way to better yourself.
Choose from one of three options. As Eckhart Tolle said, you can “remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it totally.”