I am reading a book The User’s Guide to the Human Mind: Why Our Brains Make Us Unhappy, Anxious, and Neurotic and What We Can Do About It … by Shawn T. Smith.
This is a great book to read if you are ready to change your thinking! I myself am my worst enemy. I have a hard time staying in the moment, often worried about something coming up or something in the past. However, I am getting much better! And, this book is a real eye opener for me. In a nut shell – start watching your mind, be aware of your mind.
Try to think of your thoughts as toy soldiers (or signs or balloons) marching in front of you and you can CHOOSE which one you might want to hold onto… and that is a novel thought for many of us – we can CHOOSE our thoughts. To our mind we can choose to say “thank you, but I don’t need your help, I am going to choose my path based on facts, not emotion”.
Thoughts are not reality, not always helpful, and often, based in past, learned experiences. So what your mind throws at you may not be a true assessment of a current situation, or your mind may lead you down the path of continuing past behaviors and responses, which have not been effective.
What I find liberating is the ability to choose MY behavior, my responses, my thoughts.
It is neat to watch your mind think and to slow down, pick out your responses. Try it, and try the book!